Stroke Training and Awareness Resources (STARs)

Alice’s new goals

group picture of Bob, Florence, Alice, and Sid

Florence watches as Bob supports Alice and Sid in setting new goals.
Alice, Sid and Bob begin first by discussing and documenting Alice’s new priorities.

  • She wants to have a clear role in her own home as she used to, contributing to shopping, laundry and cooking.
  • She feels able to go to the toilet herself and wants her husband to allow her to do that
  • She wants Sid to meet up with his friends and get his life back
  • She wants to meet friends for lunch without Sid coming too

Based on these priorities they then set and agree new goals and what steps are needed to complete them.

Date Goal What will I do? Review Date
23-10-20 I will have more control in the kitchen and make all meals
  • I will organise and write the weekly shopping list
  • I will start with simple pre-prepared meals
  • For more complex meals I will plan to spread the tasks through the day
  • I will fill the dishwasher and put the washing on
  • I will ask Sid for help if I need it
 23-12-20
23-10-20 I will go to the toilet without Sid helping or coming with me
  • I will tell Sid when I am going to the toilet
  • I will shout if I need help and leave the door unlocked
  • I will make sure that I leave enough time to do this myself
 14-12-20
23-10-20 Sid will leave me alone in the house for a morning twice a week and go out with his friends
  • Sid will go out for a short periods twice a week and build up his time away
  • I will make sure that I have all I need before he leaves
  • When he goes for his first full morning away I will invite a friend round
  • I promise to phone Sid if I need him
 22-12-20
23-10-20 I will organise and go out for lunch with my friends without Sid
  • I will start by going for coffee with friends and initially Sid will take me, leave me and pick me up
  • I will start to book a wheelchair taxi for my trips out and go without Sid
  • I will gradually build up my time out
  • I will have lunch in a restaurant that I know has suitable access and toilets
 22-12-20

Alice and Sid tell Bob that they can see how goal setting will really help them cope with their challenges at home and allow them to make tasks more manageable. They also tell him that they feel more confident about what to do but would like him to help them with it again. Bob reassures them that he is happy to do that but he feels sure they will soon be able to do it by themselves.

Bob has been visiting Alice for two months now. See Bob’s diary at the end to find out how Alice and Sid are doing.

Page last reviewed: 13 Jan 2021